Friday, February 10, 2012
I had scheduled a grown up play date at my friend Laura's yesterday. As I was getting dressed to go to her house after working 6 hours before 10:30am, I realized something. Something a little disturbing to me. I'd not left my house in 4 days. Well, I did go for a walk one day and got the mail a couple times. I also tend to the chickens several times a day, so I need to get outside my actual home to do that as well. But, I had not left the immediate vicinity of my house in 4 days. No other outside human contact then the men in my life. Though I love them dearly...ugh and yikes. Something's not right in Kansas, Toto. I'm feeling the reasons are many fold.
My job has been...let's see...how can we put this...so much less then fulfilling lately. I'm working at a job that allows me to be home for my boys most days. For that I am thankful. It's helping us just get by in these, yet again, laid off times. For that I am thankful. But it's also very stressful, incredibly fast paced and impossible to do really well because of that. I'm performing a good 42-45 hours worth of work in 30 hours most weeks. It's not conducive to anyone's best quality work. It's a job that is spiritually draining to me and often feels pointless. And after 3 years at this pace with absolutely no vacation, holiday pay, sick time or raises, I'm burnt out. Not your average burnt out, but charcoal briquette burnt out, the reserves are running on empty. With all that we've been through the last 4 months, I just need Calgon to take me away. If only a bubble bath would put it all right, I'd be all set.
So, many things have to change for us and yet they remain the same. We're in flux of a big decision right now (more on that later after the decision's been made) which means some even leaner times for our family for a couple of years. We're up for that challenge, but honestly, not sure how much leaner I can function this household. All I can say is this. It's a really good thing that, after a literal lifetime of it, I've gotten so good at dealing with financial adversity. It's going to prove even more useful in the near future if this decision is made.
Some days, I get to wondering will this ever end? See, Music Man and I have been together for almost 14 years (what??? how is that possible?). In that time, he's been laid off 7 times. I can assure you, this is no fault of his. All his past bosses were sorry to see him go, but it's just business. And the nature of what he's trained to do being either absorbed by engineers or shipped overseas when it costs less for the company to do this. But now, Music Man is going to be 51 soon and the older you get the harder it is to find a job. This weighs on us both tremendously. We've got two little mouths to feed besides our own, and hope to some day retire. So, that being said, something's got to give, doesn't it? It's unavoidable. Do you ever feel like you're beating your head against a wall?
I'm in one big funk lately. I think I have some slight form of PTSD because I keep reliving the moment in my head that my loving, talented, caring husband walked through our door two weeks before closing on our forever home we worked (hard- blood, sweat and money went into it) 5 months to get and had to tell me he was laid off. Again. From a job he felt was stable, and that he loved. The raw pain in his eyes and face, I'll never forget that feeling, never. And I'm having some trouble with all of that lately. I know this too shall pass, life is ever changing, it's the one thing you can totally count on. But I'm feeling...hmmm...I don't know.
So, I will get back to my recipes and homesteading stuff soon, but this is where I'm at and what I'm feeling and so thought I'd share. You can now resume your regularly scheduled programming.
Looking for a way to get to better, ~Peacemom